Growing up I was a daddy’s girl (still am) who always clashed with her mom. I’m pretty sure every teenager had at one point or another.
At the time, I was wondering about some of my friend’s relationships with their mothers and how could they get along so good. They shared everything, every little secret and even though it worked for them, I couldn’t imagine having that close of a relationship with my mom at that age. Besides, when it came to bad relationships, problems and secrets I had my best friend Maja to whine to and vice versa.
“But my mom is my best friend, Iva; we share and do everything together!”- That was one thing I’ve heard very often and which annoyed me the most! It came to a point that “Gilmore girls” would literally make me puke!
My mom wasn’t my best friend…she was my mother!
She was there to give me boundaries, to lecture me, and make a responsible person out of me. A person who can stand on her own two feet, a person who can make her dreams come true and a person who will be ready when life gets hard along the way! And to raise me to be that kind of person she needed to yell at me occasionally and scream things like:
I don’t care who started it, YOU finish it!
She never kept me in a bubble; she always gave me the truth straight to my face, no matter how painful it was to hear it. She was never a type of person who would listen to me complaining and only giving one-sided story. She would hear me out and then tell her opinion on the matter realistically. Today I understand why we clashed so much then; it was because I didn’t want to hear the truth!
Maybe some girls shared their deepest secrets with their mothers, maybe they shared everything and beyond, maybe they were showered in love words and hugs, but I got something else from my mom, something better, something I didn’t realized at the time; my mother gave me wings!
She always inspired me and pushed me to do the things I love
She encouraged me to travel a lot and she never tied me down. When I would come up with some crazy idea, she would say:
Go for it…if you don’t, you will never know what might have happened!
That’s how I ended up in some crazy adventures that I will share with you in the future! 😉 A lot of people judged me because of that, saying that I’m “too wild” and when will I “settle down” already. They just didn’t know I had a strong wind at my back. 😉
But at the end of the day it doesn’t matter what other people think, because today I’m 28, I’m still dreaming big, just like when I was 16, I’m not afraid of new experiences and my mom couldn’t be more proud of me! All that I am and hope to be, I owe to her.
Mom, you are amazing and I love you. Happy birthday!
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